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You feel stuck, as if parts of you are slipping away.
the guilt eats at you. the exhaustion grows. you wonder... will this ever change?
Break Free from Family Patterns with Catholic Mentorship That Heals
You don’t have to choose between cutting off your family or endlessly submitting.
There is a third way: healing that honors love and freedom.
Your family doesn’t hold the key to your freedom—you do. And you can choose it today.
You have found yourself
Stuck between two impossible choices
SERVICE OFFERING ONE
You smile, you smooth things over, you keep the peace. But inside, you’re falling apart.
You’ve wondered if “no contact” is the only way. But cutting your parents out feels like cutting out a part of yourself.
so you live in the tension between the two:
Smiling at family gatherings while your chest burns inside.
Answering your mother’s call with dread, then drowning in guilt afterward.
Replaying every word at night, wondering if you were too harsh—or not strong enough.
Promising yourself you’ll “say something next time,” only to freeze again.
Feeling like a child every time you’re around your parents, no matter your age.
SERVICE OFFERING THREE
It feels like every choice betrays someone—either them, or you.
But what is that's not the truth?
Love without freedom isn't love
You were created for both.
But in your family, love has always come with strings attached:
“We’ll accept you... as long as you don’t make things difficult.”
“We’ll be close... as long as you laugh at the jokes that actually cut deep.”
“We’ll stay connected... as long as you let us decide who you will become.”
That isn’t love—it’s control disguised as love.
And the world says the only way to be free is to walk away completely.
But you know that doesn’t heal the wound. It only buries it deeper.
The truth is this: real love requires freedom, and real freedom protects love.
That’s the doorway to the third way:
Answering a call without dread.
Speaking honestly without being swallowed by guilt.
Standing in front of your parents as a whole person—not as the silenced child you were.
This isn’t about rejecting your family, and it isn’t about losing yourself in them.
It’s about reclaiming the kind of love God created you for.
This is the third way. Not no contact. Not endless submission. A path where you can finally live free and stay faithful.
WHAT IF THE REALITY IS
you don't heal in a one-hour box ?
Therapy sessions. Coaching calls. Books. Podcasts. Retreats.
All good things, but here’s the truth:
The pain, the panic, the shame… they don’t wait for Thursday at 3pm.
And you shouldn’t have to either.
You don’t need another book that tells you what’s wrong.
You don’t need more spiritual platitudes to “honor your parents” or “offer it up” while you suffocate under guilt.
And you don’t need to white-knuckle life between appointments.
What you need is someone walking with you daily,
right where it hurts.
That's why we created...
Third Way Mentorship
A new model of 1:1 daily voice accompaniment that meets you
exactly where the struggle rises.
You share in the moment. After the phone call that left you shaking. Before the gathering you dread. In the late-night spiral of “what did I do wrong?”
We respond every day. With clarity, compassion, and direction. Not platitudes. Not canned advice. Real presence that steadies you.
Together, we build new patterns. Step by step, you learn to speak without shame, stand without fear, and love without losing yourself.
This isn’t therapy. This isn’t coaching. This isn’t spiritual direction.
It’s something more intimate: daily accompaniment, rooted in Catholic teaching, spiritual truths, and psychological clarity.
Because healing doesn’t happen in theories.
It happens in relationship.
We’ve lived the family wounds you carry—and we’ve found the way through.
We’re Shaelyn and Adrian. Husband and wife. Mentors.
We know the weight of family dysfunction because we’ve lived it. We also know the freedom that’s possible
because we’ve found it.
While our journeys led to different outcomes, both point to the same truth: it is possible to heal without hate, and to love without losing yourself. That’s what makes The Third Way Mentorship unique—you’re accompanied by two mentors who’ve lived both sides of the story.
Meet Adrian
My own story began in a home where dysfunction ran deep. For years, I felt trapped between love and resentment, carrying the chaos of blurred boundaries and the exhaustion of trying to hold it all together. I know what it’s like to keep the peace on the outside while losing it on the inside.
But I also know the freedom of stepping away from unhealthy dynamics—not in anger or avoidance, but in peace and hope. My parents didn’t suddenly become different people.
But I became different. I learned how to maintain distance without closing my heart.
Now, as a Certified CatholicPsych Mentor, I walk with men and women navigating the same painful family dynamics. My passion is helping them shed shame and confusion so they can stand in dignity—living with clarity, strength, and peace in their marriages, families, and vocations.
Meet Shae
I grew up in the patterns many of my clients know too well—keeping the peace, ignoring the dysfunction, fearful of doing anything that would disrupt the system. For years, I thought that being the “good daughter” meant putting a smile on my face, stuffing it down, and taking care of everyone else. But over time, through my own healing, I found the strength to speak with honesty, clarity, and peace. That shift didn’t magically change my family. It changed me.
Learning to show up as my authentic self transformed my relationships. The enmeshment loosened. Conversations became real. I could finally show up and love without fear, not by fixing anyone else, but by reclaiming my own freedom.
That’s what fuels my work as a Certified CatholicPsych Mentor. Alongside nearly a decade in the mental health field, my story of restoration has shown me what’s possible. Today, I walk with women untangling mother-daughter wounds and couples longing to heal together and find deeper connection—helping them build families rooted in both love and freedom.
Now we walk with men, women, and couples longing for the same freedom.
If this sounds like you,
you are in the right place.
You’ve carried the weight of family dysfunction for too long.
You feel trapped between cutting ties and staying silently submissive.
You long for peace and connection, but don’t know how get it without betraying yourself.
You’re afraid of repeating these same patterns in your marriage, parenting, or faith.
You want healing that honors both love and freedom— especially as a Catholic or person of faith.
If you see yourself here, Third Way Mentorship was made for you.
You don't have to keep living this way.
Right now, dysfunction feels like it always wins—guilt, silence, fear.
But what if things began to shift?
From this: Rehearsing conversations in your head all night.
To this: Speaking the truth with calm confidence.
From this: Saying “yes” just to keep the peace.
To this: Setting boundaries that honor your limits and keep love intact.
From this: Feeling like a child in your parents’ presence.
To this: Standing as the adult you are—steady, free, whole.
From this: Carrying your wounds alone.
To this: Being accompanied daily by someone who helps you break free.
And if nothing changes? You already know that story: sleepless nights, guilt spirals, silence that suffocates.
You don’t need another year of that. You need a way out.
What feels impossible for you now has already become reality for others.
The changes you just imagined aren’t wishful thinking. They’re happening every day in the lives of people walking through Third Way Mentorship.
These are real stories, shared with permission, with names and photos changed for privacy.
“I don’t dismiss myself as easily and finally feel like I can give space to the parts of me I once hated. ”
“I came into mentorship struggling with depression and low self-esteem. Mentorship helped me love and understand myself better. I don't dismiss myself as easily and finally feel like I can give space to the parts of me I once hated. Talking with someone on a daily basis made the biggest difference. It felt more personal and real, like I didn’t have to wait to be seen. If you’re unsure about starting, know that mentorship makes the process of healing feel safe and more human.”
- Theresa r.
"I didn’t realize how stuck I was in my head until I had someone walking with me through it."
“Before mentorship, I was struggling with a lot of childhood trauma and constant overthinking. I didn’t think I could say any of it out loud—but with daily messaging, I could finally talk through it as it happened. I didn’t realize how stuck I was in my head until I had someone walking with me through it. It changed everything.”
- Rob G.
" I feel like a completely different person. I feel healthier, more grounded, and deeply grateful."
“When I first started mentorship, all I could do was cry. I was completely overwhelmed and felt totally helpless. Now, I feel like a completely different person—healthier, more grounded, and deeply grateful. It’s truly changed my life.”
- Rebecca D.
"This work has opened my eyes. I can finally see my story clearly. I don't feel like I am just surviving anymore."
“I’ve been in and out of counseling my whole life, and no one has come close to reaching me like mentorship has. This work has opened my eyes. I can finally see my story clearly. I don’t feel like I am just surviving anymore, and even when things are hard, I know I’m not alone. That makes all the difference.”
- Chris l.
Their stories prove it: you don’t have to stay stuck. Healing is possible.
Simple steps. Daily presence. Real change.
You don’t need another course to forget about or a stack of “tools” you never use. You need a real person walking with you in the everyday moments where change actually happens.
Here is how Third Way Mentorship works:
Step 01
Schedule your consultation
Meet with us to share your story, ask your questions, and discern whether mentorship is a fit. You can choose Adrian or Shae—or let us help you decide.
Step 02
Begin Daily Accompaniment
If it’s a fit, you’ll step into daily accompaniment via simple voice messaging. Mentorship is month-to-month, but most people who commit to at least three months see the deepest transformation—it takes time for bodies and souls to relax into freedom.
Step 03
Receive real-time guidance
We respond daily with clarity, compassion, and direction so you don’t stay stuck in spirals. You’re not left holding heavy moments alone.
Step 04
Live the change
Over time, the old patterns loosen their grip. You show up with more freedom, peace, and authenticity—transforming not only your family, but your marriage, faith, and your future.
Still have questions?
We've Got You.
These are some of the questions we are asked most often:
Is this the same as therapy or spiritual direction?
No. Mentorship is not therapy or spiritual direction. Although we trained in both, it is a unique model of daily accompaniment that meets a need right in the middle. While it integrates psychological theory and Catholic spirituality, it is not a purely clinical or sacramental service. Think of it as having a trusted guide walking with you each day, helping you stay free in the moments that matter most.
Do you have to be Catholic?
No. While our work is grounded in a Catholic understanding of the human person, mentorship is for anyone who desires healing and freedom in their relationships. Some of our clients are Catholic, some are Christian of other traditions, and some have no faith background at all. What matters is your openness to growth.
How long does mentorship last?
Everyone comes into mentorship at different points in their journey and with varying levels of need, all of which plays a role in determining how long they will be accompanied. However, mentorship is a month-to-month commitment and you’re never locked in. Most people who experience lasting change find they need, at a minimum, three months for new patterns to take root in their bodies and to begin seeing real growth and change.
How does daily accompaniment actually work?
Mentorship is designed to be integrated into your real life. Instead of waiting for a weekly session, you connect with your mentor daily through a secure, private voice-messaging platform. That means you can share in the moment, when things come up and your mentor will respond within 24 hours. Most clients find they naturally spend anywhere from 10–15 minutes a day, spread throughout their day, and experience far greater impact than traditional weekly formats.
What if I don't know whether to work with Shae or Adrian?
No problem. When you schedule your consultation, you’ll have the option to indicate a preference—or simply leave it open. If you’re unsure, we’ll help you discern who might be the best fit on the call.
What does it cost?
Mentorship is a significant investment in your healing and growth. We believe healing your family patterns and reclaiming your freedom is worth it, and our clients consistently say the transformation far outweighs the cost.
Most clients invest between $997–$1497 per month.
We know that finances can feel like a barrier, so we offer some flexibility when there is real need. If cost is a concern, let us know during your consultation—there may be options for making mentorship accessible for your circumstances.Our goal is to make sure cost is never the reason someone who is ready for this work is unable to begin.
Can I do this if my parents aren't willing to change?
Yes. That’s the point. Mentorship isn’t about changing your family; it’s about helping you change how you show up. Even if others remain the same, you can step into freedom, peace, and clarity that transforms your relationships.
Do you work with couples?
Yes. In addition to working with individuals, Shae is certified to mentor couples. If you and your spouse are looking to navigate family dynamics together and grow in freedom as a unit, mentorship can be tailored for that.
Our Promise to you
We know mentorship is a big step. That’s why we offer a simple guarantee: if you engage daily for the first two weeks and find mentorship isn’t helping, we’ll refund your first month in full.
You don’t have to risk wondering if it will work for you.
Step in, try it, and decide for yourself.
You don't have to keep carrying this alone.
Family wounds don’t heal by ignoring them.
They don’t heal by cutting off and walking away.
And they don’t heal by endlessly submitting to what breaks you.
They heal when you learn to stand in your own God-given dignity—free to love without fear, free to stay without suffocating, free to step back without shame.
That’s what Third Way Mentorship is about.
DAILY PRESENCE. REAL CHANGE. FREEDOM THAT LASTS.
You don’t have to carry this weight alone.
You don’t have to stay stuck in the same cycles.
You don’t have to wonder if healing is possible.
It is. And it starts with one step.
No pressure. No contracts. Just one real conversation that could change everything.
Not ready for mentorship yet?
That’s okay. Healing takes time. We’ll walk with you when you’re ready.
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Adrian + Shae | Third Way Mentorship
Catholic in conviction. Psychological in clarity. Daily, personal, and real.
This is where freedom begins—not from your family, but within your soul.
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